Insecurity Case #1
I have heard 3 people this week share how they are dealing with insecurities that make them feel like crap.
I've worked with MANY types of women in my life and would you like to know the MOST insecure group I've ever met?
The MOST insecure group of women I ever met in my life were working professional models hands down! I had my 1st kid at 19 and started heavily, professionally modeling a year later. I would be in a dressing room with 50 of the most thin, beautiful and highly sought after 20 year olds and they would constantly complain about their bodies, looks & 'flaws.'
I couldn't believe it. I would think, 'I just spent an hour covering up my stretch marks for this freakin' photoshoot and you weirdos are complaining over a warped imagination & perception.
Granted, they were constantly being judged on their looks when they were going to auditions, cattle calls or go sees but no one was working on their delicate mindsets. They literally shattered a little inside, everytime they heard no. They took it personally. They wanted to die. I will never forget some of the conversations I heard in some of those rooms. No one would believe it just staring at these girls from the outside. They seem perfect.
Insecurity CASE #2
I had someone tell me she had visited family that she hadn't seen since she was pregnant with her 3 year old. She was so excited to see everyone. She's typically a thin person, but she had gained over 25 lbs with her son & still carried the bulk of that excess weight.
She walked into the family gathering after driving 4 hours to get there with her son in tow and was shocked as everyone stared at her with a look of disgust as she walked in. She had already felt guilty that she was still calling it 'baby fat' although she knew that wasn't true. But it really hit home...the severity as she watched their faces and reactions.
I recently got an email from an old client who gave me permission to share this anonymously. Her husband just confided in her that he is no longer attracted to her because of her weight and the fact that she spends all day criticizing herself.
She told me that she hates to look at herself in the mirror and she'd never allow anyone to even take a photo of her. Since she is doing well in her career and keeping things together for the outside world, she's actually admired. However, she no longer even likes the skin she lives in.
Sadly, these instances are not unique. We think 60,000-80,000 thoughts per day and most of them deal with mentally tearing ourselves down. In many cases, it happens so often, there is no loud & blaring alert that tells us to stop.
We continue to shrink and attract people into our lives who feed the toxicity. Whatever you feed grows...it doesn't matter if it is positive or negative.
So what do you do about insecurity?
You CRUSH the life out of it!
As you see, it doesn't play fair. If you do nothing, it grows.
...DOES NOTHING TO INSECURITY...read that again.
Insecurity is an inside job and can only be handled on the inside. That's actually why I refuse to work with people who only want outer work resolved. They may or may not know it, but there is always a holistic element to make it comprehensive.