I tested that my dad was NOT my biological dad. I couldn't believe it! My mom has 3 children & we are ALL by my dad. I grew up only knowing that as a reality. I never questioned it. Yes, I did always ask why I didn't look like my mom or my dad, but it was out of innocent curiosity, I've always known that genetics can pull looks, features, traits & characteristics from generations.
Therefore I was dumbstruck & confused at this new finding. Interestingly enough, my mom happened to be here in Florida visiting during this discovery. I took her to the beach the next day and flat out asked her if it were possible that I was not my dad's child. She immediately denied any other possibility & even joked that if I wasn't his, I wasn't hers either & was switched at birth. I told her that I just wanted to check for my own piece of mind & asked if it were ok for me to reach out to my dad to see if he'd do a DNA test with me. She agreed that she was ok with it, but started to alternate emotionally from anger to aggravation at the idea/thought/suggestion.
I immediately called my dad…told him of my discovery. He sounded confused but listened carefully & then caringly agreed to test with me. I found a company that could test him in St.Louis and me in Naples. Our mouth/saliva samples were sent to their lab and then the waiting game started.
This is where things got interesting to say the least. I'd only shared this information with a handful of people. Most were EXTEMELY compassionate & comforting. However I was shocked by the few who scoffed & gaslighted me. Who in the world would question someone for wanting to find out the TRUTH??? If everyone is telling the truth, there is nothing to hide.
I am a whole adult & didn't like or appreciate the vibe I felt at the suggestion that I just leave things alone and move on with life. I can't imagine how little girls (or boys) feel when they have sexual/physical/emotional abuse and are told to brush things under the rug. No you freakin' don't. I'm giving you permission (not that you need it) to open your MOUTH and shout the truth to anyone who will listen!
I am responsible for the storyline of my life & each chapter. If someone played a character in my book & said/did things that affects me…I have a right to investigate, explore & then write about it, sing about it, make a movie about it…whatever! It's a right. The only people I owe confidentiality to are clients. #Dontplaywithme
I am now extremely happy to report to you that the DNA results came back and my dad IS actually my biological dad!!!!!!!!
It turns out that something in my childhood caused me to have the FALSE belief that my dad was not my biological dad. Many of you know of Dr.Bruce Lipton's work. He shows research that supports that over 90% of our beliefs stem from our formidable childhood years. We don't know how to rationalize or process thoughts/events/circumstances as a child & could end up creating false laws/beliefs for ourselves. Obviously this can cause cognitive dissonance among other things because we are holding onto a false subconscious belief that in our waking days are not even aware of.
There was also a study of patients who were told they had a certain disease, but really didn't. The patients who believed they really had it, starting actually manifesting symptoms of having it to the point of later getting diagnosed with it. Fake or Real, the mind & our beliefs are POWERFUL!
I am thankful for this whole experience. I had an opportunity to cleanse a dirty lie that I was holding to as truth. I thanked my family for helping me to get to the bottom of it. However, I still had someone tell me I was selfish & inconsiderate of the feelings of those involved. I strongly disagree. Again, some people really think that they have the rule book to life and if you don't follow it with politeness, consideration & a curtsey at the expense of your own discovery, self-love & freedom you are a bad person…uummmm heck no!
The TRUTH shall set you free was written for a reason.